A young man Questions ? @ the age of 40s VS age of 20s!!

A young man Questions ? 

@ the age of 40s VS age of 20s!!

Greetings to all the readers...

I am an engineer and a father of two little boys and I had worked with many respective organizations in my life, but all I have reached and gained are letting me feel this is not how I wanted to be, as still the real purpose for me in this world is missing..

For that I decided to write and record the real conversations happening between me and a younger generation, and to show how i am changing the way they are thinking about life by lifting them up with positive energy and clear mindset, its like a win win situation by helping them to find them path at early stage.

Along with that; I will try to find my path (the reason) that I was created for with all of you during this new journey which will start now..

I will apply a question and answer method as I feel its just more comforting to reach to the point. 

Few days ago when a young man in his 20s approach me and ask many questions ?

Recently I am going every day to one of my close friend company, as I am now unemployed and most of the jobs I am applying for are far away to have because of my age 40s, which is considered as a barrier, now adays the companies preferring to have staff at younger age , however; then once I notice my chances are less to have a job I decided to reach out and give a visit to my old friends and see if they can help me out in my situation, which I am offering them my consultancy for small amount of money for me to survive.

Lets come back to the 20s young man, I am going to list his questions down below and honestly the way I see it ; its more than a questions actually its how to make decisions or you may say its uncertainty:

1- I have a problem at my accommodation its so far from my work place.

2- My Room mate always fighting at night i cant sleep early.

3- My Girlfriend got married and didn't wait for me as her family said to me; I don't have enough money to marry her.

4- I will show to the family of my Girlfriend who I am and I will buy the most expensive car and house ( in the future ).

5- I have my family mother and sister expecting me to support them financially.

6- The salary I am getting its unfair; for me I studied hard and I am working hard.

7- I am not happy with the company I am working in, I am worried about its situation.

8- I am worried to lose my job.

9- I cannot work properly now as there is many thinks are bothering me.

And that was the first batch of his questions...

By The time i was listening to him and see what he is going through my mind bring me back when i was in his age it was really tough for me as well.

I have decided to answer his question in the simplest way passable with examples because i want him to understand and to remember our conversation always.

I replied to the young man; open your eyes and ears now i want you to relax and have a deep breath while i will answer your queries :

 1- I have a problem at my accommodation its so far from my work place.

Also he add i slept three days in the road before i found this place !! 

Dear young man, i had faced Semler experience to yours, since we both are aboard and this is not our home country where you can fell the peace same as your own home, you have to understand while your here its time for work only, you must build your dedication based on it, think how you can come to your work early (the young man replied there is two type of transportation (taxi and bus) the taxi will eat up my salary if will use it in daily basis while the bus will be the best option) but i have to wake up early for the bus, here i request him to listen to my reply and i said very well then try to check the bus timing and schedule yourself based on it, and put in your mind if you have searched a little bit more i am sure you will find a better place near to your work, even though your accommodation is temporary matter and its minor issue not major so deal with it on this way and it shouldn't be effecting your work performance.

2- My Room mate always fighting at night i cant sleep early.

I asked him here, its you how want to deal with situation, if your roommate fighting or whatever they are doing are your really involve?

Yes i do understand there is noise near to your head but that is not a reason, you can request your roommate to respect your sleeping time also you can put headset and listen to many of the application to comfort your thought, moreover you should watch some videos how the army and soldiers are sleeping and think which environment they are in and what you have, i am sure yours much better than them.

And remember this is temporary situation and not a life time one, it shouldn't stop or affect your positive energy.

3- My Girlfriend got married and didn't wait for me as her family said to me; I don't have enough money to marry her.

I know now that young man heart are broken and sure not easy to heal it, even though; my mission is to lift him up so i told him: there is many good persons out there willing to have a good man like you, since this happen i want you to concentrate on your work, in your self to improve, if you feel that you lose your love one then; life are combination of many emotions don't let one of them control your remaining; its unfair.

4- I will show to the family of my Girlfriend who I am and I will buy the most expensive car and house ( in the future ).

The young man are full with depression, hate, negative energy and his mind captured by revenged, and there is tears in his eyes, immediately i said to him  if you want to revenge then you are not worth to learn anything, put your energy in improving yourself, find ways how to overcome the situations don't surrender to your environment, don't choose the road with dead end and always be in control of your feelings.

Let your future be filled with positivity as life its beautiful live it in this way.

5- I have my family mother and sister expecting me to support them financially.

The young man continue i have many responsibility as my mom and sister expecting for me to help them ..

Well i said, then you have an amazing goal to start with, set your mind for that and make it as target because family support its one of the wonderful thing you can do specially to your mom, as whatever we will do in good faith to our parents never we will payoff what they have sacrifice for us.

In order to do that you have to work on your knowledge, skills and experience post it up learn more read more and you will reach there for sure. 

6- The salary I am getting its unfair; for me I studied hard and I am working hard.

To all the new graduate people out there kindly note; when you get a chance to have a job try to understand the company its not your magical stick to get it all at once...

I told the young man your blessed to have a job while many others out there they are still struggling to work at any field at any salary.

Instead; switch your thinking as your fresh graduated, consider your job as it's a school its teaching you the real life practice at the same time its paying you for it, you have to gain the experience that will give you better paid job in the future.

And by the way, the real learning will start only after school, don't consider your education are enough to go through this life, you have to keep learning and this is the way to a successful life.

7- I am not happy with the company I am working in, I am worried about its situation.

To be concern about the situation about the place your working in its very good, specially if its going in away that not as per your expectations, therefore young man; love your job and not your work place as we are living in time where changes are the most common to happen, be flexible to adapt to any type of changes your work place your home your food your clothes your circle of friends, and always be your self ( meaning you know your value better than anyone in this world ) don't change your principles along with life changes, when your changing your work place for example your not going to change who your are right?! when your going to change your living place that's not mean to change you, don't let things to define who you are, have your own principles and standards and stick to it, always try to improve it and make it your warried point.   

8- I am worried to lose my job.

Don't worry to much young man, stay focus and remember by always giving your best to what are you doing.

Love your work ( what your doing ) feel that is something your really want to do it with inspiration, motivations every single day, don't think of it like a duty that your oblige to do it.

Always repeat with yourself ( love your job and not your work place ), that can take you to any where with no limit, i am sure one day one organization will have the same vision as yours and will value people like you are in love with what they are doing.

9- I cannot work properly now as there is many thinks are bothering me.

In our life there is many up and down will come, but continue to be yourself don't fake it and don't ignore it, be honest with your self, try to understand why the things are happening with you the good and bad time, get the lesson from it record it in your brain.

Dear young man look at the mountain! is it effected by all the wind and storm will come to it?

Mountains will never change to any situation will go through, and to be like a mountain you have to study how to grow from a person will be bothered from the smallest things to a person not easy to move and drift or shift from his goals.

To be continued ...